How to Fight For Your Marriage – What You Need to Know to Get Your Wife Back

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Firstly welcome, but this post is going to get pretty rough.

If it's your first time to AnHonestApproach.com then i'd like to say welcome, but we have earned the name for a reason.

But before we get to that i'd like to reassure you

Your not alone in this situation. There are many guys who send me emails in similar situations. Issues with depression, anxiety and frustration. Not knowing what is in store for them, their marriage and their families.

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The bad news

When your fighting for your marriage, your not fighting for some higher moral stance. Your fighting for the CHANCE for your marriage to get back together.

Your wife might not start acting in a nicer way or want to get back together. That's the chance you take when you fight for your marriage

The is absolutely no guarantee that you will get back with your wife and it may be a complete waste of time!

But if after you know this, then you can learn how to fight for your marriage the right way

 

With that out of the way, let's dive right in

How to Fight for Your Marriage

#1 – Make your marriage the #1 priority

I know that you probably think that it is right now and that you'd do anything do save it and get it back to how it was

But when you wife says something like ‘don't go out with your friends all the time'

or why don't you come home from work earlier to spend time with me and the kids

and you can't bring yourself to do that, then you are showing where your priorities really lie.

And you unfortunately can't have a real marriage if it isn't the #1 priority in your life

So figure out what your other priorities are, and make your decision

 

#2 – The long haul

For guys i think one of the toughest parts to being married is that most of us are like builders. We want to make something once, make it work great and then move onto the next thing. But marriages don't work like that. They need maintenance to keep going. And we aren't naturally born with great maintenance skills.

The skill to keep checking in over time. Even though it seems like it's not importnat to do it today. Or that something else is going on and you don't have time, or you forgot and now it's time to do something else

We need to be reliable. Like a metronome.

 

#3 – Every single day

A flow on from the last point is to check in every single day.

Because although it sounds strange, when we are married, we are always making a choice to stay married, not the other way around

And you need to actively choose it every day

To make it your number #1 priority every day

Deciding to leave a marriage is a decision you can make and it ends everything

If you decide to make that choice one day then you don't get to choose fixing the marriage the next day. It's over.

 

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#4 – Remember who the enemy is

Your marriage isn't a war. Sometimes we can talk about our relationship and our wife like we are at war with her, and her us.

Like she is an opposing force. But this isn't true.

You are married. And marriage takes teamwork.

The enemy isn't your wife, she's the only other one on your side. The enemy is everything else that is trying to tear you apart.

  • Money issues
  • Time issues
  • Other people
  • Health issues
  • etc.

That's the real enemy of your marriage.

 

#5 – Remember the context of the situation

A lot of the time we talk about marriage as being a ‘WE' instead of two separate people.

But i think sometimes it helps, especially in tough times, if you start thinking a little about how you act in relationships too

I mean, your fighting for your marriage so your obviously not the poster child of successful husband either

Maybe your a little obsessive, inconsiderate and/or selfish just to name a few

So start thinking of how your going in relationships

Because a new partner isn't going to fix the problem.

I think sometimes married people can think that the problem is our wives and other guys with different wives are having a completely different (and better) experience in their marriages.

It VERY rarely is. Your marriage is about you, what you do, and what that makes other people do

Answer this honestly. Are you negative? How does your wife combat your negativeness? Does she get negative too?

Ask yourself, ‘what am i doing that is making my wife act like this.'

Your most likely going around in circles like a broken record doing the same things. Which appears to be a trap that you don't know your way out of.

It's important you find your way out of the traps. For this i recommend reading more articles on this site and this program

 

 

Now onto your marriage…

Marriages in trouble can be a very lonely place. You feel like you can't ask or talk to anyone so finding a way out of your situation can be tough

You can't just stand your ground you do need some kind of a plan

 

IF you require some help fighting for your marriage, and want to give yourself an injection of motivation an experience then I recommend this

Fight For Marriage Plan

It's a system to help you save your marriage, and get your home life back to the way it once was

 

Thanks for reading this article on how to fight for your marriage.

Good luck in your marriage, and look to the future with some hope and certainty

– Randy

*Any reference to statistics and figures in this article was taken from here